A Grannies Love!!

My precious little Dannielle (photo of her where she was only 1 day old) was the first grand child on M's side. So she got a lot of attention and granny made lots of visits. She is not very healthy for the past 3 years. She is suffering from acid reflux she had many operations but still nothing helped her. Still that did not stop her of spending time with her grand daughter.

Her own daughter gave her lots of grieve during the years and she always said that I am the daughter she never had. They are not even fond of her husband that is as big as a whale and she is a tiny women. They came home one day to say that they are married they got married in court without nobody attending. Her parents were furious. She was addicted to Prozac at the time so we all wondered if she knew what she was doing. They tried to have a baby but due to his illness as a young boy he only has on testicle. They turned to insemination, that did not help either. So last year she fell pregnant naturally

Since she found out that she is expecting we were nothing (Danielle and I). I will phone M's mom no answer and no return call. Then later she and her mom will rock up at my house to visit Danielle. They went shopping together the whole day.
M's sister had her a baby about 2 weeks ago. I still try to make an effort to go visit M's mom but no luck no returned SMS or nothing. And when you drive past M's sister's house her car is standing there. Then I feel like shouting, I just feel that even if she visits there the whole day she can still just pop in to say hi to Danielle for 5min. We stay just around the corner of M's sister. I get told she is not well but then again she is fit enough to go visit her new grand daughter.

What can I do to let her know how I feel. Is she aware that she is neglecting her other grand child. I am not jealous I know that its her daughter, but I just cant understand that a granny loves one grand child more than another. I feel like crying, shouting etc. I just told myself that I will not make any efforts anymore. If she phones me to see Danielle I will make an excuse. I will make her feel like I am feeling know.

M's mom and I are very close (were) we did everything together. Shopping, walking the dogs, sharing secrets. She is a very dear old lady she wont even hurt a fly. We have never had an argument. We love each other dearly. But this past 10months is really getting to me.